Hey friend,

We need to talk.

We are chronic people pleasers. We hate the thought of upsetting anyone. But sometimes the most helpful thing we can do is tell you what's actually standing between you and better sleep.

(Also, there’s a special gift for our parents just starting their sleep journey at the bottom 👇)

This week's episode follows we challenged ourselves to share advice we'd give you if we weren't afraid of hurting your feelings.

And listeners, it's direct.

You may not like it, but you will learn:

• Why turning off your monitor sound might be the best thing you do today

• The truth about "trying everything" when sleep training isn't on the list

• How to build your threshold for crying (hint: two minutes won't harm attachment)

• Why some gentle sleep consultants are actually fueling the shame they claim to fight

• The difference between demand feeding and using feeds to stop every cry

• Sally shares her truth about moving house to avoid car crying

• Bec explains why backing your baby through a few minutes of frustration isn't trauma

This episode is honest. Evidence-based - and also genuinely helpful.

Listen now:

And find us on our brand new video channel:

We both get real about the gentle sleep world's fear mongering around attachment and react to a fantastic video from fellow sensible sleep crusader, Dr. Mona of Pedsdoctalk:

SUBSCRIBER BONUS: A FREE module on Self-settling from Snooze. This one is for those starting their sleep journey.

Ready to choose a sleep training technique but overwhelmed by the options? Sally's giving subscribers exclusive free access to her Settling Techniques module the 3-4 Month Section in Snooze by The Sleep Concierge.

The video module walks you through what’s important when beginning sleep training. And, you’ll get downloadable resources to help you level up your awareness of your babies temperament and needs.

Plus: Audio samples of different cry types so you can actually learn to distinguish between emotional crying, protesting, tired squeals, and genuine distress. No more guessing if that's a 4 out of 10 or a 10 out of 10.

This is the practical follow-up to everything Sally and Bec discussed in this episode about building your crying threshold and choosing techniques that work.

Access your FREE module here:

Settling Techniques Video Module - From Snooze by The Sleep Concierge

--- With you in the trenches, Sally + Bec 💤