Which parent should be the one doing the settling at bedtime? Can you tag team? What happens if you tap out mid-session? Sally and Bec get into all of it — and their answer might surprise you.
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What You'll Learn
- Why Bec's default is mum first — and exactly when she flips that
- What happens when dad takes over and it's going well... then mum comes back in
- The breastfeeding-to-sleep trap: why the boobs returning changes everything
- Why one parent per resettling session is the non-negotiable rule
- The extinction burst on nights three and four — and why you don't want to swap parents right then
- What to do if you're a solo parent, a FIFO parent, or your appendix ruptures
- How Sally runs bedtime in her own house (alternating nights, electric blanket by 7.02 pm)
- Why both parents need to be able to settle, even if one is easier right now
Chapters
- 00:00 Intro & celebrating Bec's three-peat family
- 05:38 Which parent should do the sleep training?
- 06:18 Why Bec prefers mum for the first three to four nights
- 07:38 The breastfeeding-to-sleep association problem
- 09:07 When dad should take the lead instead
- 10:19 Path of least resistance — and what that actually means
- 13:59 Don't rescue the other parent mid-session
- 15:31 Can you tag team? One parent per resettling session explained
- 17:18 When dad says "I think they want you" — Bec's take
- 19:02 What if your appendix ruptures? Future-proofing both parents
- 21:43 Sally's alternating bednight system at home
- 23:09 The extinction burst and why consistency is everything on nights three and four
- 25:20 Solo parents, FIFO families and the village mentality
- 26:03 Wrap up
About Nap Trapped
Nap Trapped is hosted by Sally Woods (The Sleep Concierge) and Bec Maher (The Sleep Centre) — two sleep consultants, two mums, and zero patience for vague advice. Every Wednesday they bring you evidence-based, real-talk sleep support for tired parents.
Links
Instagram — Sally: https://www.instagram.com/thesleepconcierge/
Instagram — Bec: https://www.instagram.com/_thesleepcentre/
Website: www.naptrappedpodcast.com
